I was thinking I had made a mistake waiting until my dd turned 5 to start a dayhome . Sometimes she , at 6 now is the one who causes issues . I was feeling guilty thinking maybe this is not the best for her and just this morning laid down the law to her . She has to have a good attitude while down in the dayhome . If she doesn't then she can go upstairs with her dad . I have spent so much time scheduling interesting , productive days for her and the dayhome children and realized she was not doing her best or appreciating any of it . So today , when she was upset with who's turn it was to pick a song to sing , she was given one chance to choose the right attitude and then without a word I took her upstairs .
I'm not expecting her to be perfect , but if I'm not making my own child participate happily how can I expect the dayhome kids to ?
She was shocked enough to knock and ask if she could join us again so I feel like I'm on the right track with her .
I think we feel guilty that our kids have to "share" the attention and therefore allow them to act up , at least I was .