Needing opinions !!

[CrazyEight]

My playroom is in the basement. In the late fall/winter I have the heat on all the time but I still require everybody to wear socks, and better yet slippers or robeez over them.

I don't know...I get what you're saying, is it really worth making a big deal over socks? Especially if dad doesn't care, what happens if you run into a bigger issue with dcg and dad has already "checked out" of caring about issues at daycare because you've brought up so many? I had exactly this problem with my siblings from hell. They were terrible - aggressive, threw tantrums over nothing (I got snowpants tantrums instead of socks tantrums), etc, etc. I began bringing up issues almost every day to dad, and then realised he totally didn't care. I think he had resigned himself to "my kids are sh*ts at daycare, but whatever, she just complains about them, she hasn't gotten rid of them, and I don't have to deal with them, so I'll just let her talk at me, act a bit shocked, and then go."

Once I clued in, I saved my mentioning incidents to major ones, and when I did, I would bring up minor ones. That's something you could try - could you mention the socks as part of a talk about her tantrums in general? Discuss how she seems to have issues following rules, let's make sure we're all on the same page about following through with discipline so it stays consistent, etc, and during the conversation use the socks thing as an example. That way you're bringing it up, it strengthens your argument about behaviour issues, but it doesn't look like you're nit-picking.

I got rid of them in the end. The parents lack of caring about their behaviour coupled with the insane tantrums was more than enough. You may have to do the same. Good luck.