okay listening to yours and my own thoughts. I have this. But could really use help into how to say it.

Parents are upset as she is there so must and comments and looks are being made. If she wants B/A care the school has a wait list and I can help her out until they have space in the mornings only.
As for after care - I don't have space. And she should do what I do on days that are too cold. -20'C and colder my kids don't catch the bus. They stay home unless I can arrange transportation. Other days they wear snow-pants, zip up, hats, mitts.....(hers rarely do).