I do not phone other dayhome providers or any references . I think if they are leaving a dayhome there could be issues going on that I do not need to be involved in . My opinion and my contract is the only resource I use.In my interviewing I do not engage conversation concerning the other providers , if a parent is bad mouthing a former caretaker then I know she will eventually bad mouth me . Usually that personality type will blame everyone else for their problems except themselves ! And really why do I need to know ?
As far as my discussing my dcks , I have certain people who I chat/vent with that do not know any thing more than the name I'm discussing . My dcps have just started mingling at bdays and although I'm curious there's nothing really I can do ! I do my best and I'm pretty forward that I'm not everyone's cup of tea .
Ironically ,a family that I termed immediately , spotted me shopping and came over and expressed how much they missed my dayhome and that we were still talked about by the child and wanted to say thank you for looking after him ! I was surprised but happy as I had only termed for non payment .