I totally agree with Rachel's post!! Perfectly said!

I would also have to add that we need to give these little people more credit. Yes they are only 18 months but in their 18 months they have learned A LOT. They know how to get what they want and how they want it, they know structure and rules already. I have an 18 month old. I have had him since he was 11 months. When he came to me he was on 100% puree baby food. Mom said she could not get him eating chunky food at all. I worked at it (he was stubborn) and now he eats everything we eat. He still screams for mom and often gets fed soft foods like pancakes, blueberries etc. He has also never ever had a soother here (I don't allow them). Every time I see the family out they have it in his mouth.

Personally I don't say too much to parents unless it is something major. I would never tell a family what they need to do. I will make comments like Oh that might be why he isn't sleeping the full nap time here (when they say he sleeps for over 12 hours at night). Kids learn the rules are different at one place to the next. My handful hit his mother in the face on Friday when she picked up. He would never ever try that with me. Kids aren't stupid, they learn and learn quickly. Lets give them some credit.