It's so hard sometimes !! I have a late in life child ( basically an only as her siblings are so much older ) and every time I turn around someone is giving the "baby" a treat !!! Ugh my older children were raised organic before it was cool !!! My son was the only child in kindergarten with water !! No kidding !!! My oldest is 26 and has never had a cavity !!! Ugh now the baby !! Well total different story !! We have over indulged her !! Luckily her big treat is a kinder surprise !!! But now that we are aware we have been consciously making her mind without rewards ( ugh sounds dum doesn't it !!) but we were the same , if she was good =treat !!
Thankfully for us she is transitioning well but I wish I had been more on the ball !! I think honestly , we grandparent her instead of parent !!