I as well have been on both sides - as the daycare parent and the daycare provider. I would never tell a daycare parent most of the things that you described. Some tact is needed in these kind of situations, how is it helpful to anyone to tell them that the picture their child drew isn't really for them?

I mostly just tell parents that I provide a safe, happy and fun place for their child to play, a lot of things should go unsaid that would cause anything other than sadness and disappointment for the family.

Are you feeling unappreciated?