Quote Originally Posted by Secondtimearound View Post
It sounds like this mom has a lot on her plate !! As moms we tend to blame ourselves for how are kids are acting and I think she pretty much is demonstrating this ! I can see how by going in to her daughter and letting her go thru her routine feels to her like she's fulfilling a need her child has as opposed to the child freaking out she wanted daddy to pick her up instead of mom .
I can't imagine being a single parent!! It truly must be exhausting !! She is in a huge life change !!
I think it will come down to you , even though you are friends , you have to do what is best for you and your family . If you decide to keep him in your care I feel you must accept you are not going to get any reinforcement from her . No matter what her life looks like , that you can't control , what you can control is how involved you would like to be in it !
I feel badly for both sides here !
I'm just going to keep trying and supporting them as much as I can. Yesterday was a really bad day and I needed to vent. Today was a total opposite of yesterday so I savour those days. I'm just going to keep trying with him by being consistent and keep communicating with her like I would anyone regardless of her situation. Even though we are friends and can have a frank conversation, I'm going to have some heart and not beat her down when i think she's doing the best she can given who she is and her current circumstances. I just need to be prepared to draw the line should he get completely out of control at which point he would for sure have to go. Hopefully it won't come to that.