Well good for you. This issue has absolutely nothing to do with me having a relationship with this parent outside of daycare. If anything the fact that I do gives me far more insight into the reality of what's going on to cause this phase in his life and helps me by preventing me from just jumping to conclusions and assuming I know what's going on when generally we are wrong. Again, did you not read my entire posts? I'm guessing not otherwise you would have read that my friendship comes second to business and I have no issue being honest with her even at the expense of our relationship, as I have done and that's part of why it works because we have firm boundaries and respect for each other in our different roles.
I would have dealt with every parent equally, the only thing different in this situation is that I know extensive back story to the situation which offers a lot of explanation for this child's behaviour issues currently. Also again, had you read my posts in their entirety, or acknowledged them at least, I was not asking for a solution and said from the start that this was merely a vent, massive one at that, after a bad day. The only thing I've asked for in the entire thread is what I could offer in regard to advice to the mother that I may not have already.
Perhaps I should write a new policy that children are terminated after their first offence of physical injury.....no actually I won't.