I put everything on their plate and find my dcks pretty much eat everything , if they don't I just pick everything up and toss . All my parents were quite specific they did not want their child forced to eat anything . I do get frustrated but in my situation all my kids are part time with the average days being 3 , so it is up to the parents to make sure their kids eat .
That said , I serve very nutritious meals and make sure I present veggies and fruit that everyone will eat !! I did add dips which I never served my own dd but my dayhome kids are used to dips .