My daughter is bossy

[Rachael]

Harder at school but what about things which help with equal time at home. For instance, when having a conversation, only the person holding a set item may speak?

What about timers? We will play the way you want to for the duration of the timer but she has to equally follow the direction of others for their time, she doesn't get to control anything other than if she will participate or not. Make it a family event - so if she chooses to take herself off rather than follow the direction of others, she can hear that she's likely missing out. Oh - and don't let her have first go or decide the order. That's still control.