I want my cheque back

[Rachael]

I too like full and total control over my finances and it's not necessarily about not trusting you. It's about the fact that there are two cheques now made out to you for the same period.

The parent isn't to know that your spouse won't scoop up the cheque to deposit, or any number of potential but unlikely situations which all negatively affect the parent's situation. Personally, I wouldn't have given you the new cheque unless I had the old one in my hand. And of course, if that's an issue where children are present, we can exchange at the end of the day if that's easier. I would rather you bank the old one and I could deduct it next time around than be in a situation where you have two cheques.

As said, it's not about not trusting you. It's about not being placed in a position where we felt potentially financially vulnerable.

Having two cheques potentially means my mortgage doesn't get paid, my insurance doesn't get paid, my other bills don't get paid, if you, in error deposit them both. That doesn't just create a pain-in-the-butt situation with NSF for other bills, it potentially affects my credit rating too. It would have made me very nervous. I wouldn't have done it.

[Monday 2 Friday Mama]

Sorry that the family made you feel bad. Like the other ladies have said, it's probably got nothing to do with trusting you, and everything to do with the family wanting to be sure that two cheques are not deposited by mistake. My parents pay me by post dated cheques at the start of each month. I'm not paid for sick days either and what I do when I have a week where parents have "overpaid" is I credit their next month's dues with the one (or two or three) day(s) that has/have been overpaid. Maybe that would be a better approach next time ?