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Could you tell her that you agreed to do this thinking it would be a non-issue but it is disrupting your son's (and therefore everyone's) day so unfortunately you will have to ask her to stop?
Or is there another place in your home that she could breastfeed? Why does she do it at daycare, just curious?
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I agree with 5LM. I would just tell her that it is disruptive as your son tends to act out when parents are there.
This also seems like a very odd request to me. I would never have agreed to it in the first place. There is no reason she can't breastfeed her child at home or even in the car for that matter if it is that important she does it right then and there.
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Do you trust her to nurse outside of the daycare area? Just explain that your son is acting out, it is out of character for him and in order to keep things running smoothly you will need to have her out of sight.
I had one mom that nursed upon pickup, but it only lasted a couple weeks then I commented that when she was ready to let me know and I would help her make the switch to waiting until they got home to nurse. The mom was actually quite happy to make the switch, after a long day she just wanted to get home but she had fallen into a pattern of nursing and didn't know how to change the pattern. She just texted me minutes before arriving, I had her child dressed and ready to go and I passed her over as soon as mom arrived...the girl asked to nurse and mom just said "when we get home" and ran off. She never nursed here again.
I have had children that just cannot handle other adults in the room. It can throw off even the best of children...most parents understand this and will be accommodating when you explain you need to make a change to benefit all the children.
I think asking them to move to a different part of the house still meets their request to nurse, and is also a step towards their no longer nursing at daycare.
If that doesn't work would having all the other children at the table for snack at 3pm work? Will that keep your son busy?
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thank you all for your kind support. I often am unsure if I am "out of line" with things like this as I am fairly new to the daycare provider world and have only experienced daycare from a parents perspective so I find I am very sensitive towards parents.
Since it's such a gong show at pick-ups and drop-offs I'm thinking to email her instead of trying to talk to her in person..
Last edited by k8who; 12-12-2014 at 10:21 AM.
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As well written as this letter is I think you have left her in complete control of saying "no, I want to nurse in the daycare".
I think you might need to be clear, you can email but you need to say that her presence in the daycare is setting your child off and in order to keep a calm and smooth running program you need to have her nurse outside of the daycare. Let her know that you are willing to still allow her to nurse before leaving, but that it will have to be upstairs out of the program.
This will show that you know what is best for your daycare, and therefore know what is best when her child is in your care as well. It also makes it clear that your child's behavior is a result of her presence...you made it seem like you weren't sure why he was acting up, when you clearly do.
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Starting to feel at home...
I'm not understanding why she needs to nurse at dropoff and pickup at all? Does she live that far that she can't wait until she gets home to nurse the baby? I can see a newborn maybe that would have to nurse often, but if it's a child that is old enough (I'm assuming a year or older) why can't she nurse in the morning and then when she gets home after?
That would a great inconvenience in my opinion. I mean, I never have had a mom ask to give a baby formula in a bottle at drop off and pick up, I definitely wouldn't let that happen, so I wouldn't with a nursing mom.
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Well she responded this morning that she will nurse in the car. So hopefully she truely understands. All I can think is that she will think I can't "handle" my child. But not much I can do about that. I got the outcome I needed so that's good.
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Excellent!! I agree with mattsmom. I have never had a mom ask to give their child a bottle at pick up so I also find it odd that this mom can't wait. I did have a mom who had a bottle in the car for their child when she left at the end of the day. So there is no reason it can't be done in the car. Glad you got the outcome you needed. From now on I wouldn't allow it at all with any future parents.
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I've had a 2 moms ask and "whip them out" at pick up. They were both first time moms and they got anxious when their baby starts to fuss. Plus their breasts are usually pretty full by the end of the day too so the mom obliges. They really only do it once or twice when their kid first starts then they stop. I think they feel guilty that they left their child but also want to reconnect with them once they see them. I think they catch on that a private moment at home is usually nicer (I only have childrens chairs so they also have to sit on the floor).
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