My dck's exchange a little gift (10.00) on birthdays...we have a party, cupcakes etc. I did have one mother who complained that there was not a need to exchange birthday gifts...so at the last birthday party (before her child's birthday)....she didn't send a gift...that's fine...her decision...one month later it was her child's birthday...I stipulated to the other parents NOT to send a gift...we would just do cupcakes...well!!!! the mother was stunned when she picked up her child at the end of his birthday...and there were no gifts! She was like..."well I did buy for the other children during the year"!!! I said..."well then,...maybe you should have waited to say your comment until AFTER YOUR CHILD'S BIRTHDAY!" LOL