Without touching on the topic of respect and you not being a nanny and all that my first thought is: fter having done this a few times do you see it lasting long-term? Can you continue to be awake until 11:30pm (or an hour later) and still get up to greet children (including your own) first thing in the morning? (I could NOT)!

My thought is that most home daycare providers that do late night care likely don't also do early morning care. They likely have a set 10ish hours that they are open...because it is draining to work 18hr days. Watching children isn't easy, you need rest to stay on top of everything long term.

If you are feeling like the schedule isn't going to work, on top of the mom and you clashing then I would lean to terming. If you are fine with the hours then I would think there is a good chance you can set the mom straight in how you run your daycare. Keep in mind this mom is leaving her baby for the first time and is working shift work. She may be acting out of character without knowing it because of first time jitters. Also, some cultures just really raise kids differently and don't want heir toddlers to be independent so it could be a cultural thing (which of course she needs to come to terms with if she is having you care for her child). But, ultimately if she wants control over everything she needs a private nanny.