Feeling bad about a daycare letter.

[Rachael]

I am upset, because everything is letters and reminders with her. I don't know, she can never seem to let anything go, it always has to be right on point.

LMAO - Are you freaking kidding me? Sorry to be blunt but you are the sort of client most of us would give notice to.

So she's written you a letter which isn't rude, reminding you about the contract you signed and committed to because you seem to constantly ignore it to suit yourself, and you have the nerve to feel offended by her actions? You feel she's rude and inflexible because she isn't prepared to endlessly switch her personal time around to suit you ?

LOL I've heard it all now! What about how rude you are being by signing for one service and demanding another? What about the level of disrespect you are showing her when you have zero consideration for her business, her contract, her time when she's not contracted to be available to her? You treat her appallingly and then you expect her to be chatty and friendly and have conversations that buddies would have?

Seriously? You treat someone that way and you have the nerve to moan about your hurt feelings when you have been completely taking advantage of her. The irony of that has to seriously burn.

You have an agreement with the carer. By your own admission, she is delivering fully on the service she is meant to provide - your child is well cared for, she is reliable, professional with updates, she takes a lot of time to care for your child's special needs.

In return, you are messing around by switching out days on her, expecting her to ignore the terms you agreed to, moaning that she's not friendly because she doesn't chat about non-day care related topics.

Your day care provider is not interested in being your friend. You are a client - a business arrangement not a friend. She is being beyond reasonable. Why should she "let it go" when one of her customers is taking advantage? Why would she continually put up with you expecting short notice changes to her schedule?

No, in home day care is not about flexibility for parents to bend the agreement they made. It's funny how it's always problem parents who define "flexible care" as wholly a situation to their sole advantage and never the benefit for the carer. In-home care is not a license to be an ass to your carer. It's about a smaller intimate environment of care with no issues of ever changing staff. And it seems you have an excellent carer.

If you aren't able to follow the terms you agreed to, perhaps you need to find a less formal, casual carer. I think both sides would be much happier.