Potty training thoughts

[5 Little Monkeys]

Keep in mind this is just my opinion....but I don't understand potty training unless the child can get to the potty when needed. Once a child starts potty training and is well on their way, I remove them from the playpen to a cot or plastic mattress. If they need to go but can't get out, I don't feel this is fair. They will wet themselves and in my mind, this is setting them up for failure. Could this be why she has started holding it?

I haven't had a child potty train but not ready to move out of the playpen so I'm not sure what I'd do if they weren't ready for a big kid bed but ready to train though!

[Lee-Bee]

Oh...we've only done the videos on the potty 3x in total!!! she gets very little tv here so I was hoping she would sit long enough to naturally pee. Definitely not a daily thing. Also, when she is on the potty I have started to completely leave the bathroom so she is alone (she stays on the potty but keeps singing and talking and counting and everything but stopping to pee)...I was hoping that my not being there took the distractions away...but it doesn't. I long ago got bored with reading to her on the potty. The few times she actually goes on the potty she's on her own now.

My concern with stopping is that long term it'll mess things up. Will she remember in 2-3 months and refuse to potty train because she knows she can go back to diapers? Also, we had to use diapers for a few days (she fell down the stairs and injured her leg and was limping and didn't seem right to make her try and run to the potty lol). Anyways she would get upset when she had to pee and I found us telling her it was ok to pee because she had a diaper on. Which just seems wrong to be saying to a child lol.

In everyone's more expert experience here...would we be largely set back by stopping altogether and starting up again later? Like I mentioned everything is in place here except this one little bit. I suspect that bit is a developmental thing that will come with time...are we best to spend that time potty training or not??!!

She's only 24months, I don't much mind going back to diapers...I just don't want to be screwed in a few months because she is older and less cooperative and has learned she can go backwards!!

[5 Little Monkeys]

I might have missed it but does she pee regularly when in a diaper?

I don't think going back to diapers is the end of the world if you think she isn't ready to train. It will come in time and when she's ready it will be much more easier

[Lee-Bee]

I might have missed it but does she pee regularly when in a diaper?

I don't think going back to diapers is the end of the world if you think she isn't ready to train. It will come in time and when she's ready it will be much more easier

She was already waking dry in morning and at nap for a good month before I began the potty training. That was why I began so early...she was holding her pee for long periods and showing interest which to me were the cues to begin. When she was in diapers regularly she was peeing every 2.5-3ish hours I would say. Sometimes longer...She has in the last little bit stretched it longer between pees (whether that is a result of not wanting to use the potty or what I do not know).

[5 Little Monkeys]

Could she just be an infrequent pee-er? Have you spoke to your doctor about this?

Have you tried increasing her liquids to "force" her to pee more often and see if that works...if she's still holding it for 3+ hours than I'd say she's controlling it/playing a game.

[Lee-Bee]

Haven't spoken to a doctor. Hadn't thought to.

My husband claims he only peed about 5 times total from Kindergarten through Highschool during the school day. He didn't like to pee at school (might miss something). I don't pee all that often either. We drink plenty here...just prefer to hold it and make the trip worthwhile :-) So it is completely possible she just doesn't need to pee often.

Not sure I could increase her liquids. I could try juice (which she normally never has at home) but she gets milk or water at meals and snacks and isn't limited in any way.

[5 Little Monkeys]

Lol...I was and am the same!

Maybe she just doesn't have to go that often. To help with the accidents when she does have to go, is there somewhere you could place a potty that was closer? Even if just for a bit until she learns her body signs of needing to go pee better.

[kindertime]

Have you tried giving her water while on the toilet. I have seen this a couple of times, though not for quite so long. For some reason, when I first started, I just always started running the water in the sink while the child is sitting on the toilet. And the kids also start brushing their teeth at the same time, so they all have a cup in the bathroom so I just keep giving them sips until they want to stop, or they pee. Also here we have a 10 second habit. They sit and count (or I do) to10 and if they don't pee, they get up. Every 5-10 minutes until they pee. Like you, I don't necessarily stay in the bathroom, just in and out (gotta check on the others, too.)

Okay, so maybe this idea is way too out of the box, but you said earlier that she sees you and her dad peeing, I'm assuming he's standing up. So what if you tried to get her to stand over the floor potty and pee like daddy. Might she go for something like that?

[33 Daiseys]

i run the tap, no one can hold a pee, while hearing water running

[Lee-Bee]

I have already tried running the sink the last few days! I've been joking to my friend that 'I've drained a lake but have yet to fill a potty" lol. I can offer a cup while on the potty see if that gets us anywhere.

She watches me pee all the time, my husband has started sitting to 'try and pee' while she is on her potty, she has seen him pee a few times standing up but I'm not sure she would have really connected that. I don't think our potties would work with a girl standing! They have handles and it would be such a wide stance she would totally fall over!

Gahhhhh...I think my kid is broken lol. I've tried the counting but my daughter LOVES counting and that sends her into naming colours and gets her rambling. Which further distracts her from trying to calm her body and pee. Maybe a soundproof, completely dark room would work lol.

I tried her naked one morning...but if she's only peeing every 3-4hrs...it means a naked kid all over my house and no pee. The whole peeing all over the floor and not liking it doesn't work if the kid doesn't pee.