S.L.O.W.L.Y going crazy

[Rachael]

Tell my straight - it's not cute, she's not being nice. She's deliberating antagonizing the younger children and it won't be tolerated. If Mom cannot see it for what it is and get on board with really addressing it (not pretending to agree to your face and doing nothing behind your back), then she needs to find somewhere else. You have a responsibility to all the children and you aren't willing to risk several clients to save her daughter.

When Mom makes these comments, what do you say?

I'd be replying on the spot - how can you consider that a cuddle, it's an out right headlock. How can you consider her soothing when she took the soother and deliberating made the child cry in order to return it?

Bottom line - you are going to have a hard job getting this child in line with Mom sabotaging you all the way.

[ttremble88]

Oh, I let her know. I tell her every other day at pick up that "so and so did this and that"

She does not always see it, as most of the time, she just drops and out the door. But when she does, and says what she says, I will address the child. "No, so and so, be gentle". "DCG, leave her head alone".

When the mom is there and says these things, it is usually as I am sitting there attempting to teach her otherwise.

I think that at home, it is considered funny. Even when I address things that are concerning to just the DCG, she will say, "That's my girl" type remakes. For example, she runs full speed through the daycare, with her head turned sideways and more often then not, crashes into a wall.

Or when I expressed concern about the way she walks, it was shrugged off.

Or when I expressed concern that she does not have words or really any form of communication (other then squealing in a high pitched form). Or I was concerned that she does not show any understanding at her age. It was all shrugged off. She has even said that she is not concerned.

When she went to the doctor and the doc asked if she says any words, or can point to her nose when asked, or can tell you the sound a cow makes. And the answer to all of those were no, she told me she is not concerned.