I've always felt the same in that I wish I could be more involved in my sons school activities. Maybe it's just me and a coincidence but every single client I have had has a pretty cushy job. They are always taking days off here and there "just because" on top of booking time off when I am off plus sick days. I realize not every parent has a job like this but a lot do.

My son had issues at school too his first year and it can be difficult especially for us providers because we are so used to being right there with our kids day in day out and being able to deal with situations directly.

As for the choking incident, all you can really do is discipline your daughter and make sure she understands how dangerous this behavior is and have a firm consequence in place and let her know about it and how it will be implemented should she do it again.