Parent with scent sensitivity

[Rachael]

How would you ladies approach this?

Like you, I would offer to minimize the scents on the day her child is here. Then when the second comment came, I think I would have been a bit miffed, esp as I would have honored the promised I made.

I think now all you can do is state that you don't use when he's coming/in the day care which is the commitment you made when made aware of the issue. However, yours is not a scent free home. As a home owner, you enjoy the scents you choose for your private space. If she is still finding the scents too strong, then all you can suggest is she limits the time chatting in your home as you have no intention of eliminating scents from your family life beyond the promise you have made and kept.

... on a side note, this same mom came in the door this morning, sat on my floor and talked for 20 min.

That would never have happened. I'd have interrupted long before 20 mins and said that I needed to get on with my day, I'll see her out as I want to lock the door behind her and get activities going.

Then she made a comment about how there was salt, (ice melt), at my front door, and that her son kept picking it up, hinting that she thought I should clean it

I would have said "That's just come in with you. Once you leave and I get the children settled, that will be cleaned up when I get to it. But I can't chat, supervise and clean at the same time.