Feeling lost, depressed

[MonkeyPrincess]

I just can't shake these feelings as of late. I have felt very overwhelmed, lost and sad. I am so not into the kids or my job or frankly anything. My family really hopes to move closer to my family but we have not been successful in finding employment in our new town. It would be hard to leave Toronto as there are so many opportunities and my husband has an obscure job which is harder to find in small towns. My husband has had 2 interviews in the town we hope to move to over the last year but he wasn't successful. I feel even worse about feeling sad about things as this just puts pressure on my husband who is trying so hard to make this monumental change for me.

I am just really feeling stuck here now and don't know what to do. Part of why we want to move is so I can stay at home with my kids, have a few more and be closer to my family. If I were to find employment there it wouldn't make sense as my husband may never find something. My dad is also sick and this has made me want the whole process sped up. I just need to get over this rut and move on but I am having a hard go of it.

I am sorry you feel like this. I know there are a few life changes all going on at the same time, heck, just one is enough to cause those feelings. Please talk to someone, I think you might benefit from talking to a medical professional. Your mental health is just as important as your physical health. You say you have felt very overwhelmed, lost and sad. These are very normal feelings, but when you are being overwhelmed by them, then it may be beneficial to seek medical attention. Today is Bell Let's Talk day, (swear to you and it's a day of awareness to end the stigma and get everyone talking about their mental health.

I am sorry that i don't have any advice, and i hope this hardship gets easier, and i hope you are able to find compromises. lastly, i hope your dad is better soon. big big hug!

[Fun&care]

I am sorry you are feeling overwhelmed Torontokids. You really do have a lot on your plate. It can be hard when you so badly want change but it doesn't come or takes forever. I have been feeling stagnant and frustrated myself, wanting to move on etc. but it hasn't happened just yet. We live far away from our families too and it's difficult sometimes, however moving back to our hometown is not even a possibility in our case as there are just no jobs...being a stay at home mom was always my dream too but it will never happen. It is sad that most households now need two incomes, makes things so much more stressful for some.

I want to add too, don't forget it is January, we are in the dead of winter and it sucks! I've heard of a lot of people feeling down in the dumps etc. so don't forget that could be playing a part. Don't forget to LET yourself feel sad. There is no wrong in it! Don't feel guilty about not being happy about your circumstances-that just silly!

Give yourself a break this week, don't do any programming and just let the kids play. I've been doing it for two weeks and it feels great, it's been a nice break since I have been so unmotivated to do really anything at all.