I am lucky enough to care for the best little group of kids, I have such a great relationship with them all and treat them all like my own... But I'm feeling very disrespected from one of the Dads, it kills me to think about terminating them but I'm tired of his disrespect towards me. I need a little advice on what to do.
Long story short 5 months ago I sent one of the girls home with the flu, as in my contract they are not to return until 24 hours after last symptom. Mom was great and came right away, she knows my policy and said she would keep me posted on when DG would be back. The next morning I get a text from dad wanting to drop DG off, I explained to him that she can't return for 24 hours after last symptom. He told me he has to go into work and has no other option, mom just started a new job and couldn't leave. I stuck to my policy and said no, well the whole afternoon he sent me rude text messages telling me my rules are a joke and because of this he might loss his job. I was in tears with how rude he was being towards me, I have always had a great relationship with mom & dad. I ended up phoning mom at work and explained everything that was going on (her and dad ARE married) she tells me she had no clue about any of it and that Dad never told her he had to go into work (it was his day off) I forwarded her all his messages so she could see how rude he was being.
I did up a termination letter and gave it to her that same week, that Friday at pickup she asked if we could talk. She begged me To keep her girls and promised nothing like this would ever happen again. Because I have such a big heart and love those girls I agreed to let them stay but told her this was the last straw and if anything like this happens ever again they will be let go.
Well for the last 5 months Dad hasn't been doing drop off's or pickup it was always mom, I assumed he was still mad and holding a grudge towards me. Well starting last month mom decided she wants to go to the gym in the mornings so she tells me Dad will be doing drop offs again. I have no problem with this it doesn't bother me at all, whatever happens 5 months ago was in the past. He on the other hand must not be over it, he won't look at me, talk to me or even come into my house. When I say have a good morning he doesn't respond only says bye to the girls and leaves!!
Well today Iv had enough of his rudeness, I sent mom a message asking if he still had an issue with me and that his attitude towards me is rude at drop off.
She claims he's just mad because she started going to the gym and is grumpy because his routine has changed in the mornings....
I feel so disrespected by this family, I treat those girls like my own. I constantly help them out when needed, I give them all my daughters clothing she has out grown, spoil them rotten on birthdays and Christmas and this is how he acts towards me?!?
I'm at a loss, should I cut my ties or am I over reacting?
Any advice?