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I have a 3 1/2 yr old boy starting today. A little aprihensive if I'm honest as he is considerably delayed. Not toilet trained, speech delayed although he definitely talks. I have another 3 year old who will hopefully do him the world of good and vice versa.

Living circumstances are a little unique. Lives full time with grandparents only sees his mum once a year, father isn't in the picture. Nana does everything for him and it seems like she has done the best she can considering the drama she has had to go through with his mum. Unfortunately I think she has overdone a bit which she has acknowledged and now he is delayed. He will not attempt to take his own coat and boots off or put them on. Doesn't ask for anything or show iniciative. Has to be told or his Nana just automatically does for him. She is on board to make changes thank goodness and I suppose I'm just a little nervous as to the extent of how much capacity he will have for following direction and doing as he is told, more so how nap time will go :-) I'm used to a great crew in a great nap time routine and typically my kids start much younger and if they are bad sleepers at least they are in a playpen initially till they get in the swing of things. I'm wondering if this delay is a product of circumstance or if there is a deeper underlying cause going on here. I suppose only time will tell.

As for toilet training, I've said to Nana I'll not even bring it up until he is settled in so a couple of weeks or so and then we will give it a go and she is on board to give it 100%. Apparently she has tried and he will go to the toilet when asked if he needs to go but will never ever actually go. He can pull his pants down and get on and off but doesn't do anything. She said if she puts him on without pulling his underwear down then he will pee. Any thoughts?

I was never 100% about taking this kid but it was a rare opportunity to fill my last spot until I close because then it will be time for JK. I also think while he has the potential to be a lot of work, that is no reason to pass on him. Everyone deserves a chance and these are the kids who need us the most. Sometimes kids need a break and this does have the potential of being a great opportunity for him and the group. I have also got no issue with letting him go should there be no signs of improvement at the 4 week mark. The last thing I want to do is have my last few months of work be a daily feeling of dread for going to work. I want to finish on a positive note. I've just got visions of him getting up and wandering around which I'm not going to be happy about if I have to stand guard at the nap room door when I'm usually pottering around the house getting multiple things done when the kids are sleeping.

[5 Little Monkeys]

Hopefully all your worrying will be pointless and it will turn out great!!!

I know you've mentioned before you don't have a video monitor but I love having mine for this exact reason! I actually have 2 lol. One is a mini tv monitor that sits in my living room and the other one is a handheld one with built in walkie talkie....I LOVE it!! Just last Friday I saw my 3 yo boy standing and kinda bouncing around, I asked what he was doing and he said he needed the washroom so I told him to go! Lol. I tell them every day when I tuck them in that if they need to go they can just go and than come back to bed but my 3 yo girl never has to go and he normally just pees his pants....so I'm glad to see that we're maybe over this soon!

Anyways, having the handheld allows me to do my things during nap without having to go down every 20-30 mins to check on them (dc centre habit that I still have lol)

Good luck, I hope today is going well!

[bright sparks]

Hopefully all your worrying will be pointless and it will turn out great!!!

I know you've mentioned before you don't have a video monitor but I love having mine for this exact reason! I actually have 2 lol. One is a mini tv monitor that sits in my living room and the other one is a handheld one with built in walkie talkie....I LOVE it!! Just last Friday I saw my 3 yo boy standing and kinda bouncing around, I asked what he was doing and he said he needed the washroom so I told him to go! Lol. I tell them every day when I tuck them in that if they need to go they can just go and than come back to bed but my 3 yo girl never has to go and he normally just pees his pants....so I'm glad to see that we're maybe over this soon!

Anyways, having the handheld allows me to do my things during nap without having to go down every 20-30 mins to check on them (dc centre habit that I still have lol)

Good luck, I hope today is going well!

I may see if I can borrow one as at this stage of the game I don't want any additional expenses but I can see me needing one.

He has been here an hour and DING DING DING...alarm bells and red flags going off all over the place. I think the delay is a little more deep rooted since the kid can not stop moving unless he is focused on something and he can not fix his eyes or stand still. A bull in a china shop too who doesn't seem to realize there are other people in this room as he just walked over a two year old as though he wasn't there. I'm going to keep a written record and hopefully he settles down and I'm able to help him. Nana has opted to not give vaccinations and said he only goes to the dr's when he is ill which is never so he clearly hasn't had developmental checks where I'm sure a dr would be noticing the constant moving amongst other things.

Happy kid though, very social even if there are some clear issues which does make it easier that he is a happy child. Not toilet trained...4 in August....not looking forward to toilet training a child who may or may not have special needs but at least for sure has some areas of need beyond the average at this point. Will do some research and call upon my special needs expert friends for some guidance. He also seems to struggle to follow any verbal direction, requires to be shown or led which at least has worked for now. Sometimes completely unresponsive where I raise my voice louder but I don't think it is a hearing issue at all because if he is engaged in something he likes he responds much better. I am definitely noticing some clusters so will just keep track as I said. So much has come up immediately I doubt at all that this is just simply a slow learner or delay issue.

I'll keep everyone posted and please cross your fingers for a successful naptime

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Poor 3.5 year old who comes to my house only ever having eaten junk food. I actually feel really bad for the little boy as it's not his doing but now he is left with an empty belly till afternoon snack. �� I hope he learns fast but there's a huge difference between breaking poor habits at under 2 and pushing 4. (((Sigh)))

[5 Little Monkeys]

I got my handheld on Walmart.ca on Black Friday for $90. If you were closer I'd lend ya one!!! Lol. Maybe kijiji?

It is definitely hard to break bad habits at that age! At least grandma is on board with changes....that's half the battle!

[babydom]

Sounds like maybe autism? How is nap going? Hopefully well. 5LM what handheld and monitor do you use! Is it easy to set up and use? I'd like to get one.

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I got my handheld on Walmart.ca on Black Friday for $90. If you were closer I'd lend ya one!!! Lol. Maybe kijiji?

It is definitely hard to break bad habits at that age! At least grandma is on board with changes....that's half the battle!

Not sure about the food though. I advertise very clearly that I serve all homemade. I very recently changed from Organic to Natural as you may remember on here a number of months ago I was trying to cut my costs. Even though I am not an exclusively Organic daycare anymore, I do not and will never serve any processed foods. It's my sell and generally the reason parents come to me although nobody doesn't come because I serve it lol Childrens info package is filled out and brought on the first day. Favourite foods are pizza, KD, Bear Paws, waffles, Noodles. Not a vegetable in sight lol Todays lunch was likely a stretch so tomorrow I will make some changes to the meal plan just to eliminate any additional transitioning obstacles but I'll make homemade favourites and see if he can stomach them. This fella didn't even try it though, he didn't want it on sight so I'm not sure he will eat home made mac n cheese as it won't look like KD let alone taste like it. Poor kid was begging me and pointing to the fridge for something else.

[bright sparks]

Sounds like maybe autism? How is nap going? Hopefully well. 5LM what handheld and monitor do you use! Is it easy to set up and use? I'd like to get one.

I've worked with autistic children very closely and this isn't like those I've seen before. It seems more like attention. He sat for 20 minutes like a zombie and watched dinosaur train while I put lunch out. Didn't flinch. An autistic child would be moving, fidgeting or something.

He was upset about going to bed, but he isn't a screamer, more of a sobbing cry He was asleep within 10 minutes thank goodness. That was my biggest fear. He kept sitting up but I just kept popping in and telling him to lie down which he did each time.

I really hope it works out and it's just a matter of accommodating his extra needs. Toilet training though...wow that's going to be a laugh a minute!

[bright sparks]

I got my handheld on Walmart.ca on Black Friday for $90. If you were closer I'd lend ya one!!! Lol. Maybe kijiji?

It is definitely hard to break bad habits at that age! At least grandma is on board with changes....that's half the battle!

Kijiji is going to be my first stop but we will see.

[5 Little Monkeys]

http://www.walmart.ca/en/ip/11895914.../6000187517415

That is the handheld one. I really really like it. It was on sale for $84 not $90 sorry, on Black Friday. It looks small but with the way I have it, I can see 3 out of my 4 kids so by default, I know it's the 4th child making noise even though I can't see them lol. Super easy to use and set up is nothing but plugging it in!

And this one is the one I got in the States from walmart. It's nice too but not being able to carry the monitor around isn't as nice

http://www.walmart.com/ip/Summer-Inf...nitor/23735522