Argh Husbands!

[torontokids]

Yeah, I know...For the most part its OK and he does do stuff.

We have our "jobs" where things don't get questioned but even these are unbalanced. It is mostly the other undivided tasks that end up falling to me.

His List
Takes our DD to school every morning
Garbage out once a week
Snow shoveling/mow the lawn
Reads to the girls every other night.
Takes the girls to Dr appts
Does his own landry/ironing
Makes his lunch for work the next day
Takes care of the car


My list
Groceries
Get the girls ready in the morning
Cook
General household management like banking, call the teacher, book dr appts, hair cuts etc
Bath time
Read/bedtime with girls every other night.
Clean the DC
Make DD's school lunch
Any heavy cleaning

We hired a maid a yr a go (because I snapped and told him we didn't have a choice) and it has made a huge difference for me. She comes bi weekly. Before we hired her my husband did the vacumming.

I think its the things like the dishwasher, general cleaning etc. Or when I have a lot on one particular night.

[AmandaKDT]

Yeah, I know...For the most part its OK and he does do stuff.

We have our "jobs" where things don't get questioned but even these are unbalanced. It is mostly the other undivided tasks that end up falling to me.

His List
Takes our DD to school every morning
Garbage out once a week
Snow shoveling/mow the lawn
Reads to the girls every other night.
Takes the girls to Dr appts
Does his own landry/ironing
Makes his lunch for work the next day
Takes care of the car


My list
Groceries
Get the girls ready in the morning
Cook
General household management like banking, call the teacher, book dr appts, hair cuts etc
Bath time
Read/bedtime with girls every other night.
Clean the DC
Make DD's school lunch
Any heavy cleaning

We hired a maid a yr a go (because I snapped and told him we didn't have a choice) and it has made a huge difference for me. She comes bi weekly. Before we hired her my husband did the vacumming.

I think its the things like the dishwasher, general cleaning etc. Or when I have a lot on one particular night.

Everything you have on your husbands list is what my husband does - plus he helps with laundry (not just his own), does all the vacuuming, changes sheets on the beds, helps with washing the floors, and almost always does all the bath and bedtime stuff for our girls. Plus now that I am having trouble with my hands and feet he does most of the dishes too. And if I need him to help me with anything else I just ask him. Even with all that, it feels like we barely keep up with the demands of chores and children. So, I can't imagine doing it all like you have been doing. Of course you are tired! :-(