Argh Husbands!

[JennJubie]

No one was trying to make it into a competition, we were just trying to give some insight.

As for not blaming him for "something he didn't know he was supposed to do".... he IS an adult, yes? Can he not at least ask what needs to be done? Unless our husbands believe that the housework is done by magical house elves, than they do understand that there is work to be done.

I'm not saying to make him guess what needs to be done, I'm just saying that I understand why the OP is so frustrated. It's a matter of respect. When our husbands do squat and we're working our butts off, and they know we are, it's just disrespectful.

[Suzie_Homemaker]

No one was trying to make it into a competition, we were just trying to give some insight.

As for not blaming him for "something he didn't know he was supposed to do".... he IS an adult, yes? Can he not at least ask what needs to be done? Unless our husbands believe that the housework is done by magical house elves, than they do understand that there is work to be done.

I'm not saying to make him guess what needs to be done, I'm just saying that I understand why the OP is so frustrated. It's a matter of respect. When our husbands do squat and we're working our butts off, and they know we are, it's just disrespectful.

That goes two way. If you are going to expect him be adult and ask why is it not unreasonable that you are adult too and so speak?

Do you want to be happy or do you want to be right? LOL

It's only disrespectful of him if he really sees you being unhappy and ignores it but if you are always whining about how he does things when he helping, if you are always telling him you are fine when you are not, if you aren't opening your mouth and taking some responsibility for not resolving the situation, you are being disrespectful to whine behind his back when you don't have the sense to speak to his face.

You would rather spend 5 minutes arguing about being right with me, than speaking to the man you are meant to love and explaining that you aren't happy about something in your house? That makes no sense because winning or losing a word battle with me changes nothing in your homes. LOL

Why not go fix things rather than complain to strangers about disrespect?

Do you not think it's disrespectful to complain to strangers yet not give same data to husband? That is crazy.

[JennJubie]

That goes two way. If you are going to expect him be adult and ask why is it not unreasonable that you are adult too and so speak?

Do you want to be happy or do you want to be right? LOL

It's only disrespectful of him if he really sees you being unhappy and ignores it but if you are always whining about how he does things when he helping, if you are always telling him you are fine when you are not, if you aren't opening your mouth and taking some responsibility for not resolving the situation, you are being disrespectful to whine behind his back when you don't have the sense to speak to his face.

You would rather spend 5 minutes arguing about being right with me, than speaking to the man you are meant to love and explaining that you aren't happy about something in your house? That makes no sense because winning or losing a word battle with me changes nothing in your homes. LOL

Why not go fix things rather than complain to strangers about disrespect?

Do you not think it's disrespectful to complain to strangers yet not give same data to husband? That is crazy.

Actually, things in my house run just fine, thank you. I do talk to the man I love rather than "whining behind his back" I was referring to the OPs issue. I included in my first post about all the wonderful things my husband does for me, and then you accused that we were making it a competition.

[Suzie_Homemaker]

Actually, things in my house run just fine, thank you. I do talk to the man I love rather than "whining behind his back" I was referring to the OPs issue. I included in my first post about all the wonderful things my husband does for me, and then you accused that we were making it a competition.

Just because I don't agree with your methods that does not mean you bashing mine will change my mind. You can call me out with your justifications for your every statement if you want to do that but I don't have to change my view to suit yours.

I see this lots on some persons posts, two or three members in particular. Someone makes a question asking for opinion and if you or one more doesn't like it, you get defensive about your house/your daycare/your husband like this is only way to do it right. Why is no one allowed to have opinion not same as yours and you pick apart but when someone does same to you, you get defensive.

We teach people how to treat us and I think your and the other person who does this a lot, don't like being treated the way you treat others, Maybe you should think about reap what you sow and then you won't seem so unhappy about everything with like victim tones.