Argh Husbands!

[torontokids]

Thought I should reply as OP.

I appreciate all your answers, really! First- I didn't find people mentioning what their husband does creating a competition but found it helpful to know that I wasn't out to lunch that I should expect more from my husband.

I am a pretty direct person but the issue with division of labour is something I struggle with addressing with him. I think because I feel like we have done this before but also because I don't want to be "a nag." Helpful to know that this is a continual issue to bring up and revisit.

I addressed things with my husband and things are good. He is going to help out more and so far has been. We had guests coming over on Sunday and he asked me if he could help with anything. We went out that night for a belated V-Day and I used that as an example of how I want things to be and he said he will start doing this. Now that we've spoken about it I am going to be more demanding of what I want. For example if it is a night that I have to go grocery shopping I will let him know he needs to do the bath and bedtime. This is something we normally do but it doesn't really happen unless I ask...I am hoping for more initiation but I am not holding my breath on that one. I am also giving myself permission not to feel guilty when I ask for him to do these things.

My girls have a rest/nap time every weekend afternoon. Today I read/napped during their nap time and cleaned the daycare when they woke up and my husband watched them. Normally I would have cleaned during their nap and played with them when they woke up. Also, we were going to a family day event and my husband wasn't ready to go (he was trying to buy AC/DC tickets and couldn't get through online). I took the girls on my own and gave him a list of things to do while we were gone...he did it all.

My MIL has said she will watch our girls if we want to do a monthly date night so I have already booked the next one with her. This is another thing that would never happen unless I set it up. Things are moving in the right direction, thanks!