I've lost a good amount of weight before without fad dieting so it's not a matter of not knowing how, it's about mental strength...not just willpower, but a lot of it none the less to stay on track and not get led astray by fear that dominates my mind so much.
I need to follow an anti-inflammatory diet for my endo and that is why no dairy or soy. Natural sugars only too. I haven't had white products in my house for as long as I've had my kids, so nearly 14 years, but I give in to ordering delivery for lunch during the week, drive through on the go, eating out in restaurants if we have the time or just not eating all together. None of that has anything to do with not knowing how to actually lose weight, just the power of the mind and convincing myself that it's too hard and I can't do it. Committing to fail before I even try.
I know so much about nutrition and wellbeing it's ridiculous. At one point I seriously considered training to be a Holistic nutritionist, and only didn't because it is rare a person can make a full time income from it and with kids and a mortgage it just isn't an option.
At my best, I eat 5 times a day, never going more than 2-3 hrs without food. I eat fat and protein at every meal, whole grain such as brown rice or quinoa with lunch and then don't eat after 6. Gallons of water and herbal tea and unlimited veggies and 2-3 fruits a day maximum.
I just can't seem to get my head out of my ass and overcome this ridiculous debilitating fear that makes me turn to junk and convenience. So far so good today. I made some crustless quiches in muffin tins for the weeks breakfast loaded with veg and morning snack was an apple and some walnuts. Lunch is Kale, turkey and brown rice soup. If I have plenty of food prepped it makes the odds more in my favour and along the way I have to not buy into the crap that has me doubting myself from time to time.
That is so frustrating! I really do hope you get things sorted out. You know what you have to do, but it isn't always so easy to make it happen. Try to give yourself short term goal, perhaps that will help. I really, truly hope that you have success!