Be careful. Is all this information coming from the mother? Without any paperwork, how do you know if it is true?

I know you want to make sure the child is not hurt and that the Dad is not a risk to you or anyone else but until you have court paperwork telling you different, right now, you just have one person's word - and that Dad has the same rights as the mother until he doesn't. You can't just deny a Dad access without paperwork just as you couldn't deny the mother access without paperwork.

What a mess.