I usually give an outfit and a book after the baby is born and we know what it is. I usually hold the gift till they bring the baby to visit while dropping off or picking up the older child who has stayed in care at least part time. They love to show off their new sibling so we present the gift as if it is from the daycare friends - and traditionally some day that baby will be a daycare friend - now with Bill 10 maybe not as often. If the family leaves care and pulls the older child from care I only give them a gift if they make a point of bringing the baby by to see us.