Cheap parents

[sandylynn]

i don't even think we should be grouped with the above mentioned as those professions also deal with all kinds of other clients and ages. Their jobs are not specifically targeted at young children only. Not saying they don't deserve anything for their hard work lol and i am not saying that we are obligated to receive anything but if someone is to gift something at least gift it properly. I know a few days ago i posted a thread about baby shower gifts and not one of you mentioned you would re-gift your used baby clothes to someone. We as providers go above and beyond (sometimes even more than teachers) and i know we give so much so i think if someone does choose to gift us, it shouldn't be their used garbage.

thank you emma h

[sandylynn]

Thank you 3rdtimesacharm....we should NOT be grouped into the same category of the hairdresser or mail carrier....I don't spend 10 hours a day having my hair done....and for that matter I do tip my hairdresser very well at Christmas....however ...5 little monkeys...I do love children....and am not spending 50 hours a week to get gifts and bonus's from these people...HOWEVER.... giving me a used tube of self-sun tanning lotion is nothing more than a complete INSULT...it's just WRONG.....nothing would have been better....I am paid for my work...yes...but please....parents... .don't toss me what was going in the garbage....for a Christmas Gift.....seriously! It just changes my opinion of you...just sayin

[Suzie_Homemaker]

Thank you 3rdtimesacharm....we should NOT be grouped into the same category of the hairdresser or mail carrier....I don't spend 10 hours a day having my hair done....and for that matter I do tip my hairdresser very well at Christmas....however ...5 little monkeys...I do love children....and am not spending 50 hours a week to get gifts and bonus's from these people...HOWEVER.... giving me a used tube of self-sun tanning lotion is nothing more than a complete INSULT...it's just WRONG.....nothing would have been better....I am paid for my work...yes...but please....parents... .don't toss me what was going in the garbage....for a Christmas Gift.....seriously! It just changes my opinion of you...just sayin

But you understand that is your view. Does not mean every other carer has same view. Does not mean parents have same view. That is point some trying to make.

Just as you entitled to feel your way, parents entitled to feel their way. Seem that we expected to be understanding of your view but you too have to be understanding not all same.

[kindertime]

I'm not sure many of us have been so lucky to get a used tube of anything. But self tanner? Maybe you were looking a little pale. lol Whenever I get a gift from a parent, I write a thank you note telling them what I'll do with it, or whatever. "Thank you so much for the old spices, I will be sure to include them in lots of daycare meals!"

[bright sparks]

I have had some pretty awful regifted gifts before but I just shake my head and move on. There is no obligation to buy any service provider a gift so expect nothing and you won't be disappointed, maybe a little confused at a used bottle of tanner, but the only person it bothers is yourself if you get wrapped up in feeling awful about it. If they want to go to Disney or put hardwood floors in and buy me a POS for Xmas, then that's their prerogative to do so. They pay me for my service and nothing else is required. No sense in getting upset over what should have been or happened. Also counting cash is a smart move on the parent who does it religiously for you. I'd see that as a positive thing not a negative. Generally speaking in life we do not see things clearly about what's going on with other people. I like to say, don't assume to think you know what's going on. The tanner gift is ridiculous but laugh it off and don't let it stress you out. My gifts have gone in waves and I am the only one who can control my happiness and I know my worth without the need for extra gifts so gift or no gift or even crappy gift doesn't bother me anymore as it's more a reflection of the other person and their circumstances versus my self worth.

[sandylynn]

Thanks brightsparks...well said

[5 Little Monkeys]

You said it better than I did bright lol. I agree with you

[sandylynn]

Thanks 5 little monkeys....it was one of those things...I was really just curious if anything of this nature had happened to anyone else....I appreciate any or all of the gifts I have received over the years from my parents....I really do....it was the actual gift we are talking about ...the capper of the whole story here was....the self suntanning lotion came from a family that I would not have believed that they would have EVER used this product in a million years!

[5 Little Monkeys]

LOL...that is totally something my FIL would do too!!! Gross for sure! Lol

I can't think of any odd gifts I've received...definitel y received some that I just regift though lol

[mickyc]

I will admit I am ticked when I don't get some sort of acknowledgment of appreciation at Christmas. I have had my share of unappreciative parents but I don't let it bother me too much.

I luckily have never had a bad gift - one that I don't like or need or is useless to me but they have always been new