Cheap parents

[MsBell]

I have been pretty lucky with gifts from DCP, they have all been very considerate. I did have one mom, that worked 1/2 days a lot (split shifts), and I used to have a half day rate, but it worked out that she would pick up right before lunch, and always say how good lunch smelled. then one day she asked her boy if he just wanted to stay for lunch (yes he did) next thing she asks for some. I was a little taken of guard, but also flattered that she wanted my cooking (my kids, well you know, they act like I'm trying to pioson them) anyways this started to become a bit of a habit, so I started to serve the more "kid friendly" stuff, think she wont want that....she did! then she admits "I would rather eat here, its cheaper for me then going out" and that was the end of that, and the end of the half day rate.
talking about bad gifts though, one year, my MIL (ex MIL now) gave me her used kinky lingere for my birthday!!!!It was a set of crotchless panties and a nipple-less bra.......Oh, I know they were hers, because she said "They don't fit me anymore, so I thought you could have fun with them"

[bright sparks]

I have been pretty lucky with gifts from DCP, they have all been very considerate. I did have one mom, that worked 1/2 days a lot (split shifts), and I used to have a half day rate, but it worked out that she would pick up right before lunch, and always say how good lunch smelled. then one day she asked her boy if he just wanted to stay for lunch (yes he did) next thing she asks for some. I was a little taken of guard, but also flattered that she wanted my cooking (my kids, well you know, they act like I'm trying to pioson them) anyways this started to become a bit of a habit, so I started to serve the more "kid friendly" stuff, think she wont want that....she did! then she admits "I would rather eat here, its cheaper for me then going out" and that was the end of that, and the end of the half day rate.
talking about bad gifts though, one year, my MIL (ex MIL now) gave me her used kinky lingere for my birthday!!!!It was a set of crotchless panties and a nipple-less bra.......Oh, I know they were hers, because she said "They don't fit me anymore, so I thought you could have fun with them"

A big old WTF!?! Lmao

[kindertime]

I have been pretty lucky with gifts from DCP, they have all been very considerate. I did have one mom, that worked 1/2 days a lot (split shifts), and I used to have a half day rate, but it worked out that she would pick up right before lunch, and always say how good lunch smelled. then one day she asked her boy if he just wanted to stay for lunch (yes he did) next thing she asks for some. I was a little taken of guard, but also flattered that she wanted my cooking (my kids, well you know, they act like I'm trying to pioson them) anyways this started to become a bit of a habit, so I started to serve the more "kid friendly" stuff, think she wont want that....she did! then she admits "I would rather eat here, its cheaper for me then going out" and that was the end of that, and the end of the half day rate.
talking about bad gifts though, one year, my MIL (ex MIL now) gave me her used kinky lingere for my birthday!!!!It was a set of crotchless panties and a nipple-less bra.......Oh, I know they were hers, because she said "They don't fit me anymore, so I thought you could have fun with them"

OMG!!! Best story ever. I'm still laughing!!! I think I would prefer the used tube of tanner than have that image rolling around my brain. You made my day, thanks for sharing.

[sandylynn]

I have been pretty lucky with gifts from DCP, they have all been very considerate. I did have one mom, that worked 1/2 days a lot (split shifts), and I used to have a half day rate, but it worked out that she would pick up right before lunch, and always say how good lunch smelled. then one day she asked her boy if he just wanted to stay for lunch (yes he did) next thing she asks for some. I was a little taken of guard, but also flattered that she wanted my cooking (my kids, well you know, they act like I'm trying to pioson them) anyways this started to become a bit of a habit, so I started to serve the more "kid friendly" stuff, think she wont want that....she did! then she admits "I would rather eat here, its cheaper for me then going out" and that was the end of that, and the end of the half day rate.
talking about bad gifts though, one year, my MIL (ex MIL now) gave me her used kinky lingere for my birthday!!!!It was a set of crotchless panties and a nipple-less bra.......Oh, I know they were hers, because she said "They don't fit me anymore, so I thought you could have fun with them"

Hmmm...gee...I wonder why she is your "ex" MIL....LOL

[Suzie_Homemaker]

am I missing something huge here....I also have a parent that counts the money out to me EVERY TIME HE PAYS ME.....I've told him.."please just put it in an envelope and leave it on the table"....like I need this crap!

This not for reason you think it is.

I have some cash pay client and I ALWAYS count the money, in front of them, immediately. It not to do with being a jerk. With new notes, they stick easy but regardless, if error made, it easier to address before client leave house.

Little while back one Mom gave me $40 too much. New client who got her husband to take out money on his way home from work. If I not counted that, and if I just put away, then they might have thought I dishonest.

Same if money is short by mistake. If client leave in envelope on table and I not know money missing until later, when I call them, that could be awkward. They might be sure they gave right money when they did not.

Much more sensible to count in person, so both agree correct and no misunderstanding or awkward conversation later.

This is learned to do many year back and good practice. Stand me in good stead over years. More than one error corrected very simply by do this straight away in sight of client. No misunderstanding - ever. Good thing.

[5 Little Monkeys]

Omg msbell!!!!! Both your stories gave me a good laugh....lol!!!

[Suzie_Homemaker]

No relationship, business or personal, should doing tasks keeping score of what owed and what repayment they feel is just.

If you do favor, expecting one in return, or do good job expecting additional reward, you be sorely disappointed many times.

Do favor because you want to, with no score keeping. Do good work because you have sense of pride in yourself, with no expectation of gift at year end.

Have much happier life, with fewer dissappoints if you approach life this way.

No one is entitled to gift - ever. Not friend, not family, not business relationship. When get gift, view as unexpected bonus not entitlement.

[3rdtimesacharm]

So how is giving teachers gifts at Christmas time any different than a daycare provider?? Apart from the fact they they would receive 30 gifts opposed to 5.... I think these professions are viewed similarly in regards to a small token of appreciation. Again, it is NOT the dollar amount, but, like mentioned here before, a simple cards with some kind words etc. I think a large number of students, especially in younger grades don't think twice about a teacher's gift, and from my experience it is the norm to do the same for a daycare provider.

[Emma H]

So how is giving teachers gifts at Christmas time any different than a daycare provider?? Apart from the fact they they would receive 30 gifts opposed to 5.... I think these professions are viewed similarly in regards to a small token of appreciation. Again, it is NOT the dollar amount, but, like mentioned here before, a simple cards with some kind words etc. I think a large number of students, especially in younger grades don't think twice about a teacher's gift, and from my experience it is the norm to do the same for a daycare provider.

EXACTLY! I remember as a child my mom would get my teachers something every year for Christmas. People do this to show appreciation to the one person who looks after the most precious gift in their lives. No one said they expected anything or that they do this job because they expect gifts. The whole point in this thread is that the women got a bottle of used tanning lotion and people are attacking her HOW DARE YOU EXPECT GIFTS...calm down ....If money was an issue I'm pretty sure there is a dollar store that sells card for a buck..

[bright sparks]

EXACTLY! I remember as a child my mom would get my teachers something every year for Christmas. People do this to show appreciation to the one person who looks after the most precious gift in their lives. No one said they expected anything or that they do this job because they expect gifts. The whole point in this thread is that the women got a bottle of used tanning lotion and people are attacking her HOW DARE YOU EXPECT GIFTS...calm down ....If money was an issue I'm pretty sure there is a dollar store that sells card for a buck..

Nobody attacked her Emma we just gave our different opinions. That is how this forum works, we don't need to agree, we are allowed to object, it's how we learn and grow by gaining perspective from other peoples opinions. Also how a thread starts out can naturally focus more closely on some areas than others. I think the OP came on here for opinions and that is what she got. If you don't like a response then ignore it, but you don't need to be defensive if you don't like what's said. I also don't recall anyone saying "HOW DARE YOU EXPECT GIFTS"