Cheap parents

[MsBell]

I do have to admit, gifts are nice. However, a gift not at a holiday means more to me than a Christmas gift. But those who don't give gifts don't mean it as an insult I don't think?

One of my past single moms gave a small angel ornament one year that looked like it might have been regifted or from the dollar store and because I knew money was tight, I appreciated it very much even though it was something I didn't like. When they left my care, the grandma (who was very involved) and mom wrote 2 beautiful messages in a card and gave a $50 gift card (by leaving, mom saved $560 a month!!) I still read that card monthly!!

I get that gifts are nice but like mentioned above, I try not too expect one.

Yes! a Surprise coffee in the morning, or fresh flowers picked in spring, early pick up.....LOVE those gifts!

[5 Little Monkeys]

Yes! a Surprise coffee in the morning, or fresh flowers picked in spring, early pick up.....LOVE those gifts!

Yes, love all those...especially when the late child has early pick up lol.(that happened yesterday amazing how even being done just 15 mins is so lovely!) I've also had a mom remember my birthday (it's on the bday wall....which I actually took down because I didn't want parents to think I wanted a gift lol) and bring a gift and another couple moms knew what and when ECE week is and brought in treats/gifts. Another mom brought flowers for no reason (she was one of my handful moms so that really threw me off!! Haha)

Sometimes I think we view gifts as validation and when we don't get one, we wonder why and feel resentful. I know that's how I am sometimes and I have to consciously remind myself that that's not always the case! Even just a random "thank you for all you do" is appreciated and sometimes means a lot more than a gift card that was just bought due to societies "norm".

[bright sparks]

Yes, love all those...especially when the late child has early pick up lol.(that happened yesterday amazing how even being done just 15 mins is so lovely!) I've also had a mom remember my birthday (it's on the bday wall....which I actually took down because I didn't want parents to think I wanted a gift lol) and bring a gift and another couple moms knew what and when ECE week is and brought in treats/gifts. Another mom brought flowers for no reason (she was one of my handful moms so that really threw me off!! Haha)

Sometimes I think we view gifts as validation and when we don't get one, we wonder why and feel resentful. I know that's how I am sometimes and I have to consciously remind myself that that's not always the case! Even just a random "thank you for all you do" is appreciated and sometimes means a lot more than a gift card that was just bought due to societies "norm".

I have a parent who brings me starbucks, regularly. I feel so guilty because it is so pricey lol Her sister works there I have now discovered and she gets it for free. I am just grateful that she shares this wonderful perk with me as I love starbucks but would literally have to downsize to be able to feed that habit so I try to avoid it. Yesterday they were 10 minutes late picking up due to the rush hour snow storm which was horrific in Niagara Region, as were every other parent. The dad called me as soon as he left work and text me at 30 minute intervals to update me on his progress. Honestly that is all I could have asked for, that level of courtesy and consideration really made me happy that I had this family as one of my clients. This morning mum apologized tenfold and gave me a bag of starbucks ground coffee!!! Alrighty then

I also have another daycare parent who brings me food...whenever she tries new and healthy meals she brings me a serving In the spring and summer her kids pick my flowers and give them to me and say all sorts of heart warming cute things.

[sandylynn]

ABSOLUTELY...MsBell. ..those are the gifts that mean a lot to me....

[Emma H]

If you don't like my post why don't you just ignore it ?

[bright sparks]

If you don't like my post why don't you just ignore it ?

I can have a difference of opinion without getting all defensive so I don't need to ignore it. We can agree to disagree that's just fine....many of us do but we can still all contribute and get something out of it.

[Emma H]

Well then don't tell me that I should ignore everything. There are a few users on this site that are extremely rude (I don't think you are rude in anyway). I wasn't getting defensive I just felt like some people weren't as nice. My point was teachers and daycare providers as amazing people and it doesn't have to be Christmas to show them you appreciate.

[Emma H]

I can have a difference of opinion without getting all defensive so I don't need to ignore it. We can agree to disagree that's just fine....many of us do but we can still all contribute and get something out of it.

I received your message but its not letting me write back!!! I just wanted to let you know I read it and agree !! Sorry about the confusion

[Suzie_Homemaker]

# 41 - If I don't like something I will speak my mind we don't all need to ignore everything

# 45 - If you don't like my post why don't you just ignore it ?

LOL So if you don't like someone statement, it okay for you to state that and it okay for your personality type to not ignore and instead be moderator. Yet, anyone else must ignore and not comment on your post if they don't like?

Have I got that right?

Only you can have difference of opinion stated but anyone else state difference of opinion then they are attacking?

You say "calm down". You say "How Dare you" but you are not attacking and just stating difference of opinion that no one else may do?

As my nephew would say "The irony of that has to burn".

[Emma H]

LOL So if you don't like someone statement, it okay for you to state that and it okay for your personality type to not ignore and instead be moderator. Yet, anyone else must ignore and not comment on your post if they don't like?

Have I got that right?

Only you can have difference of opinion stated but anyone else state difference of opinion then they are attacking?

You say "calm down". You say "How Dare you" but you are not attacking and just stating difference of opinion that no one else may do?

As my nephew would say "The irony of that has to burn".

As I recall that was never talked about but thanks