CrazyEight you make a good point. I agree that balance is needed and frankly, you are right, why have kids if you don't want to spend time with the? That said, I have already signed my eldest up for activities that 'mom and her' will do together sans baby. One program runs in the morning and so I will either be keeping her home those days or dropping her off late to daycare (with their approval). Thanks to the TorontoKids for opening up this conversation. It is really great to see all the points of view.