I have a 4 and a half year old daughter who can be quite a handful. She has temper tantrums, she yells and screams, and speaks rudely sometimes. sometimes she can be mean to the daycare kids. mornings can be quite tough around here. on days like that I try to keep her separated. sometimes she has a hard time getting up, she fights me about what clothes to wear, about her hair brushed and teeth brushed, her breakfast or lunch, etc. I always do something about it, whether it be time out, time in her room, i explain that it's not nice to act like that to our friends, etc. I struggle with her sometimes and I would really appreciate advice on how to nip this in the butt because I really feel like I can't even control my own kid Some times.

Dcmom of a boy I watch before school called me after her son came home from school and she wasn't happy. She says that her son (6 y.o.) told her that my daughter went to tell him a secret and she spit or drooled in his ear. I was mortified. Apparently it happened this morning here while getting ready to go to school and I didn't even know this happened and he didn't tell me. dcmom asked her son if he told me about the incident and he said yes, he did tell me. She asked me if there was any Confusion about the matter because he was saying the opposite thing and I swore to her I had no idea, he did not tell me because I would have dealt with my daughter at the time without a doubt! Yes was unacceptable behaviour But this was the first I heard of it. I said her son should have told me at the time so I could have dealt with it. There have been a few incidents of conflict between the two kids but nothing over the top.

I apologized again and said i will most definitely be speaking to my daugher but clearly the dcmom was still not happy. i understand that she was upset, don't get me wrOng but i didn't appreciate how the conversation was going, it seemed like she wasn't happy with anything I said. I said the kids all have they own personalitlies and I work with them when issues arise, her own son included. I feel like she kept focusing on my daughter. I don't have any major issues with her son, just minor things like being slow To get ready but nothing behavioural, he is a good kid. I told her I would do the best I could to keep them separate but there is a varying degree of responsibility on both sides and i mentioned a few things that she can talk to her son about. Dcmom wasn't impressed to hear that but I am honest with parents and I tell it like it is in a polite way. The resolution must come from both sides.

I was put Off by the dcmom today, Maybe I am taking it too personally? I don't really think dcmom was out of line but I think maybe her tone in the conversation was and I didn't appreciate the negativity about my daughter.