Hi there,

I have a soon to be 3 yo dcb who has been out of diapers for about 5mths now. Mom just shows up one day informing me that he is in underwear. I explained to her my policy of children remaining in diapers/pull ups until they can fully communicate with me that they need to go. She protested, and long story short, I decided to give it a go her way. Anyways, he has yet to communicate with me when he needs to go, he just holds it until it's potty break. He is vocal with his parents, but not with me. I take the kids regularly to the potty and there have been minimal accidents. This is only with pee though....with poops, he goes when he needs to, and 9 times out of 10, it's not on the potty OR in his diaper that he still wears during nap time. He doesn't go poop here everyday, for the longest time he was doing his business at home before going to bed at night, so it was a non issue for me. But lately, his schedule has apparently changed and he's now going here, in his underwear. Yuck. Anyways, today was the last straw for me, (he went twice and both times he was JUST ON THE POTTY), so I told his parents that if he hasn't gone poop at home that morning, I will be putting him in a diaper until he goes. Not only is it time consuming for me to have to wipe this child down, but it's also a sanitary issue. Today his poop came out the back a bit! The parents were not happy with this, thinking it was going to cause him to regress and start peeing in his diaper again. The Mom got defensive, and accused me of not taking him to the bathroom enough! And they totally didn't understand the sanitary point, at all. It ended with them reluctantly agreeing to do it my way until dcb is able to let me know his need, but they weren't pleased whatsoever. Am I being unreasonable here?