Help! Son's friend stole his iPad...How to approach....

[Other Mummy]

Everyone who knows this story is more angry at the mother of the boy who stole the iPad. I'm furious. She is burying her head in the sand. But interestingly enough, it's going to come full circle tonight when Peter's mom and the sleepover hosts mom meet at their son's hockey practice. Wish I could be a fly on the wall.

I went to Peter's house again yesterday to speak with the mother again. She never called me back to let me know if she even looked for the iPad at her house. We went on Saturday and at this point it is 3 days later. 3 days to call me and let me know either way. So when I drove by and noticed her car in the driveway I decided to pay her another follow up visit. I know Peter did not come clean, but I wanted to hear what she had to say about the situation.

She answered all pleasant and welcoming. Told me she was "going to get around to calling me" and that she looked in Peter's room and the spare room and her younger son's room and could not find it. Then she made a half hearted attempt at a joke about how "Messy" her son's room was. Seriously lady? Then she said she would talk to the mom who held the sleepover to see where it could have gone? Perhaps it was a prank? Wait until sleepover mom tells Peter's mom that her son saw his game controls in Peter's room in the summer. Yikes.

Last night my dh went to pick up our son from his friends house (same friend that had sleepover) and spoke with his dad. for an hour. My husband told him how blasé Peter's mother was about the whole thing. How she still insists her son last saw it on the bed. The dad was very frustrated and getting upset with Peter and his mother. She is not being a parent but allowing this behaviour to continue.

My son is still hoping some how he will get it back.

[Lee-Bee]

It may very well be that the mom isn't 'burying her head in the sand' thinking her child is perfect, but rather she just doesn't care. Just because you have a child doesn't mean your morals all get lined up. There are plenty of adults out there (with and without kids) that just feel that they can have what they want. Adults steal stuff all the time, adults feel that if they want it it is theirs, adults feel that they should get to have something because someone else can afford it but they can't so they can take it and the other person can just buy a new one. These people have kids too and they aren't likely to have a different set of standards for their child.

Unfortunately if this is the case then there is little hope of ever coming to a satisfactory end here because no matter how much you disapprove or how direct you are they will just shrug it off and deny it because in their mind they are justified in doing what they do.