Omg!!!!! I cannot believe what you ladies are going through.

My child I had on purée doesn't seem so bad now! Lol. He started with me at 11 months. He refused stage 2 purée. We worked on it and eventually after what seemed like forever I got him over to stage 2 plus our foods. We had lots of struggles with this child but now at 2 years old he eats everything I give him. He will cry if I put something on his plate that is new but he knows he has to eat it, and does. He pretty much lives off peanut butter sandwiches at home.

Personally I would not accept this sort of bad habits. I would stress about it so they would have to find a new daycare because I know I couldn't keep feeding puree. I supply all meals and usually get parents to supply baby food but I even bought stage 2 baby food for this boy as mom was just sending puree. I also don't allow soothers at all and bottles must be gone by 15 months.

I know these kids are not ours but they spend the majority of their time with us. I feel it is up to us to enforce good habits even though it all gets thrown out the window when mom walks in the door. Kids learn quickly what rules are here and what rules are at home.