20 Month Old Still On Purees & Barely Self Feeding Spoon

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I would be setting a guideline of expectation that by 24 months child should have advanced to the level you would normally expect of an 18-20 month old which allows for his prematurity. That said it means no bottles at daycare and use of a sippy cup, feeding self finger foods and attempting to use a spoon or at least know what it is for even if they can't actually get food to the mouth etc. Sounds to me like mom got caught up in the prematurity and forgot the part about them catching up over time and that the goal was the same as for any child and to gradually push them to the next developmental level.

As to the puree that comes I use infant cereal to thicken it to a pudding consistency so easier for me to feed or child to feed themselves - ie neither one of us slops it everywhere. Also as of a certain date child should be eating the daycare menu so that you are no longer having to specially prepare his foods.