DCM dropped the ball on handling a very teachable moment!

[Suzie_Homemaker]

Parents are people too. Imperfect people who get things wrong.

So Mom got it wrong, in your view. So the kid is over-indulged in your view. Not saying you wrong, just saying that I am sure when my first child was still only child, I made lot of mistakes and it only having experience of caring for many, many children over decades that I can truly see some of those moment where I totally got it wrong.

What I not have, is a day care provider, looking down her nose and being judgy about my errors and then venting on world wide forum about me making wrong call.

Holy - it not worth getting so upset about.

Was it right? To be honest, who cares. Would you rather be right or happy? Just shrug and let it go.

If I didn't have other parents at the door and crying children to attend to, I would have sat for a moment with the dcg and dcm and explained how giving a gift means you DON'T ask for it back. That all her friends will be sad now that she took it. I bet she won't even play with it at home.

LOL Seriously? It one thing to sit down with a child as part of our job and to explain this but it very patronising to do that with a grown adult who doesn't care what your opinion is.

She is not bothered that you think her wrong. She is only bothered by fact kid likely wants it back. Had you sat down with Mom is such a manner, you'd have irritated her immensely because she would feel you were shaming her in front of her child. That not your place. A day care parent is not obligated to listen to your teachable moments.

So what if she doesn't play with it at home? If you need to have a "teachable moment" out of everything, teach the sad kids that life isn't always fair. LOL