First I scaled back my menu to be very simple and basic since that is what most young kids like the most so less hassle. Leave the combo meals up to the parents. I try to accomodate likes and dislikes within what we are doing so doesn't like red sauce would get just the pasta although I might add a hint of margarine so it doesn't just stick into a glob. They get apple and cucumber slices on their plates since they all eat this although some don't eat the skin but I refuse to peel for over 18 months. Anything else dessert wise is served ONLY to those that finish what is on their plate and too bad if they don't like it. Dessert which could be another fruit, pudding, yougurt, cookie, etc. is served to those that are still hungry not instead of the first course. Sometimes it motivates the others to try and eat at least some or more than they did and other times not but the rule stays the same. I do little piles of food on a plate so some pasta over here, some veggies over there ( ususally use frozen mixed then they can pick out and eat the parts they like and leave the ones they don't), and then a meat. Anything breaded seems to go over better than just plain. I make up for the meals at snacktime and make sure they get a fruit and cheese, etc. I serve milk with snacks and water with lunch so they can't fill up on liquid either.