Thanks for all your Input. It's nice to be able to ask for advice and have multiple people Reply.

the 6 yr old wanted to come over to my house today. Told her no, not todAy. I was caught off guard when she asked why not. I just told her I have all my daycare kids.and I am really busy. It was not the right time to have a chat with her about her behaviour because other parents were around.

When all the dckids were gone she invited herself over to our driveway. my son reminded her of the rules snd get this- she told him to be quiet because he is not he boss of her!. So I spoke up and told her that she was playing at our house and I am the boss here and we have rules if you want to play here. She wouldn't look at me and ignored me as I spoke. I kneeled Down in front of her and reminded her of past incidents and told her she can't play if she is rude doesn't follow our rules. So she left to play on her own driveway. The nerve of the kid!

I have to muster up the courage to say something to her parents. i am usually pretty assertive and well spoken but I do not like confrontation at all..it does a number on my anxiety, especially knowing it's going to be awkward seeing them around the neighbourhood. I dont want to be seen as the neighnourbood bitch who allows.some.kids.ove r and not others. Those kids have mutual.friends with my kids and they are going to be put in the middle and my kids are going.to want to play with the twins but won't because of K and MI. I know I shouldn't be concerned with what others think, especially since the kids are in the wrong but I have given them way too many chances.