Too Many Choices for Toddler = Power Struggle?

[ebhappydc]

I have a wonderful mom to one of my dcb who just turned 2. She's very caring and smart, but I find that she gives him soooo many choices at drop off and at pick up that it turns into quite a power struggle. Since the time he was 18 months, he gets a choice in everything it seems until things go sour and he's having a meltdown and she has to force a choice at that point.... Eg. "Do u want me to pick u up early or late today?.... Do u want to wear your hat, or your hood....do u want to put your shoes on sitting on the bench or steps?", do u want this or that etc... He changes his mind several times and ultimately it becomes quite unpleasant. I can hear the battle with rest of the dcks from another area.

I'm all for giving kids choices, but I don't make everything a choice.... It can be over done can't it? I don't know how to mention to mom who I quite like. I think she's trying to to be a good parent since she hasn't seen him all day, but it's not going smooth. Should I just grin and bear it while I listen to things go awry? I gave my own kids choices but as soon as they started a power struggle their choices ended for a while. But that was back in the olden days! Thanks bunches.

Ps I had one mom a few yrs ago tell me they were late all the time cause daughter took half hour to choose clothes for the day after trying on several outfits.... C'mon...really?!

Pps:. I also think she is teaching him language skills and engaging him in thinking about choices and responding. It's just not going very well. He is mature and smart for his age though.