I'm not sure this is the right place to be posting, I just really need some help! lol

[Lee-Bee]

Ummmm no. That is just not acceptable on any level. If you have been sending home soiled close (daily) and have been voicing the concerns about her lack of training and they have continued sending a child in panties when they don't have her in panties at home then they deserve a termination letter. Hopefully you can find something politically correct to put for the reason because I would have a list of not so nice ways to put it!!!!!

How disrespectful. It is one thing to hope your daycare provider will do all the work and train your child. But to not inform the provider that your over 3yr old child is in pull ups at home when you are voicing the struggles with panties in the dayhome is just deceitful.

[Suzie_Homemaker]

This really bad. I would have serious talk with parent to try and understand why this information not forthcoming esp after all your concerns were raised with parent. If at end of that, I felt they deliberately misleading, I would term. Not okay for you to have to deal with pee and poop on your carpet when parent making sure their own is protected.

[kindertime]

I agree with the others, buh-bye! Just out of curiosity, how did you find out?

[monkey25]

she told me lastnight at pickup. totally casual, like, 'oh well, cuz she's in pull ups at home, so we don't notice anything out of the ordinary' I felt like I was gonna be sick. I was so upset.

[torontokids]

So what are you going to do about it??

[monkey25]

I think I will see what I can do with the situation. I'm not one to give up on a child. As frustrated as I am with the whole situation. Obviously pull ups are a must until she is 100% absolutely accident free. No exceptions. Period.

[flowerchild]

I think you need to take this time to also address the disrespect of your property and other behaviour concerns as well.

Maybe probation? The thing is, it doesn't seem like you have the parents support in anything, so she will just continue on in this way and you will be fighting a losing battle. If her parents were OK with her peeing and pooping all over your house even though they knew she needed pull ups, they aren't going to care that she's destroying other things.

[monkey25]

That is a really good point!! I don't know why I have put up with it for so long. I just really want whats best for everyone....and then I often forget about whats best for me and my family, not to mention the other kids in my care.....to be clear, I don't forget about the other kids in my care. haha! I have brought up the fact that it is just not safe for the others to be around. There are also days that I have to completely close down the toy area because I can't bust out the carpet cleaner with all these kids running around. Of course, I do what I can to clean it in the time being, but I can't get a really good clean until everybody leaves. In fact, I bought a carpet cleaner specifically because of the toilet issues from this child.

[mickyc]

So how long have you had this child? Have they always brought her in panties? Did they tell you she was fully trained? I am a little confused to how you got to this point.

Did she enter your daycare under the understanding she was trained?

Personally I would have demanded pull-ups after the first few days of accidents. I have zero tolerance for such disrespect of your home. You can steam your carpet all you want but ultimately it is ruined and will need replacing.

[monkey25]

I have had her for 2 years. This has been a problem since she was in diapers. I would have to tape the tabs on her diaper down so she couldn't take it off at naptime, on many occasions i would check on her and she would be covered in poop.
I helped potty train her....i have helped potty train many kids, including my son, who was trained in 2 days. Understanding every child is different, but this is out of control. They just stopped packing pull ups. I remind and remind them and they would forget and i suppose i just gave up? It feels pretty defeating sometimes. There have been nights where i just cry because i feel like I'm failing this child.
i know i sound stupid. I know i am being taken advantage of. But for some reason i keep thinking i can fix the problem.