I'm not sure this is the right place to be posting, I just really need some help! lol

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My son was trained at 2 1/2 and was accident free for about 6 months and then from age 3ish until the end of SK he was peeing his pants close to 6 times a day during school hours with maybe a couple more accidents daily at home. This was not behavioural, he wasn't being defiant, he simply didn't care. It was not important to him and because it wasn't important to him retaining any kind of information with regards to toileting was almost impossible. It was only years later after extensive psychological evaluation for schooling that upon having his history taken, a psychologist explained this to me. Now this may not be the case for this child, but for mine it was and had I put him back in pull ups or a diaper, the only benefit would have been to my laundry load and floors, but wouldn't have helped my son any. That being said, he wasn't in a daycare, he was home with me. If I was faced with this here, a pull up would be a must, and I don't say that lightly as I don't even use pull ups to train in, underwear only in my daycare. I just want people to maybe think that your rational for why this is happening may be completely off as its hard to know what a child is thinking and how they interpret and process things. For my son this wasn't a case of intellectual capacity or physical or mental ability or readiness. Like anything with him during the primary grades of school, if he didn't see the importance of something, there wasn't a dam thing you could do to convince him otherwise. Also, you could go to any lengths in terms of incentives to make him go, but in all likelihood he probably didn't hear or notice any of it because his mind was on more important matters...at least to him.

In a case like this where I am hazarding a guess that there is more going on than just toileting issues, I'd be giving notice. I am not one to give up on a child, but if you have truly tried everything and its obvious that the parents aren't on board, then you have to think of the best interests of the group and how much is taken from them as a result of a child in this situation.