I had the same experience...it's a commitment on your end. It can be very frustrating and time consuming. It's tough love unfortunately. By catering to his needs every few minutes and going in the room when he cries at nap, it will make it worse and yes- its true, he's training you and most likely he has his parents fully trained as well :/ I would decide if you are willing to commit to this child and if you decide to, you need to be very consistent. Never go in the room when your trying to train him to self sooth, unless you think he's hurt. I think the video monitor is a great idea. Also, I would put him in a different room or on another level in your house. He will come around it just takes time. If you let him go, it will not solve your problem....you could get another child the same and have to go through it again. I decided to commit to mine who had the same issue, it took almost 8 weeks. Ultimately I thought it was good for him to have someone to teach him to be independent and self sooth. Keep the communication to a limit while he's transitioning (if you decide to commit to him) If not, than yes, I would give the parents daily reports so they won't be shocked if you have to let him go. Try not to dote on him. He will learn when you come to daycare, this is the way it is. When he's at home, that's their business and their problem. I know it's hard, but stick to your guns! You'll get through it