Furious at this parent!!

[bright sparks]

I never implied in my post that YOU specifically were parenting anyone's child. I said in general I know providers do that. Smearing poop on the walls or floor isn't normal behaviour and I wouldn't put up with that and also if he changed and was altogether a different child I don't think you would have a hole in your mattress.
I am on your side here lol The poop smears and mattress incidents alone make me fume for you lol I can't even believe there was more in between!

I think it happens more often than you think that a child takes a diaper off at nap time and messes with it. What's normal for one kid is not for another and it's absolutely normal for a child to test boundaries even if sometimes that means acting out in an extreme way. A lot of kids can not control their impulses. My daughter smeared Poo all over her cot at 14 months, so she isn't normal....that's fine, she turned out okay. It was a one off and because I handled it in a certain manner, it didn't happen again. Or maybe it was just shear luck lol Huge difference between a 2 year old doing that and a 4 year old. Kids go through phases and his behaviour at 2 would have been due to different reasons than his acting out over the past 6 months and he wasn't a naughty kid back then. As I said, was an isolated incident. I'm not a push over nearly 10 years in my job. If it had been chronic back then, I would have termed but it wasn't. I also think it is normal for two and three year olds to go through phases that even when very bad, can be resolved. If I'd terminated at every episode of bad behaviour Id have no kids. Even when something huge occurs, I think every child deserves some extra effort to help them overcome these issues. It's only his recent spout of incidents and his bad attitude over the last 6 months that has become a chronic problem. And as I said, had it not been for my planned closure, he would have been gone already.

I also didn't take it as providers in general that you were refering to as you clearly stated a few times the word "you" in relation to the subject matter. I get it though. The beauty of this kind of communication and how easily info is misinterpreted. Thanks for clarifying though.