I am at a loss with my handful and I have always questioned whether I am the best fit for him or if group care is the best fit for him. He has these epic meltdowns that I am not sure how to handle anymore. He gets very upset when something happens e.g. he wanted the blue broom and he got the green broom- epic meltdown. He threw a car at someone so he wasn't allowed to play with the race track anymore- epic meltdown. I was sick yesterday and was closed so this was essentially "Monday" for him, Mondays are always hard.

When he has these epic meltdowns I try to ignore him. This has helped to deescalate things for sure (most of the time) but sometimes I feel so cruel while this 2 year old cries at length and has a major struggle regaining composure. He will follow me around while I continue on with my time outside, help another child or just try and keep busy so I can ignore him. It feels very unnatural to me to not console him at times...other times I can't get far enough away from him.

I'm looking for advice. I have never had a child that A) takes so long to calm down or B) has so many meltdowns.