Angry Boy

[5 Little Monkeys]

I really do believe that a lot of times, the kids who need the most loving behave like this. I'd want to put in at least month and see if I notice any changes before terminating. HOWEVER, the parents MUST be on board and willing to help as well. If I feel they are hindering and not helping and their child's behaviour starts to spread to my other children than I'd be more willing to terminate at that point.

I don't believe just passing off children with bad behaviour to other providers is the answer. I try to think how I'd feel if that was my child. (Provided that I wasn't enabling the behaviour of course!!)

Remember he's still young and like most of us, change us hard. He's still adjusting to your routine and rules.

[Lee-Bee]

I really do believe that a lot of times, the kids who need the most loving behave like this. I'd want to put in at least month and see if I notice any changes before terminating. HOWEVER, the parents MUST be on board and willing to help as well. If I feel they are hindering and not helping and their child's behaviour starts to spread to my other children than I'd be more willing to terminate at that point.

I don't believe just passing off children with bad behaviour to other providers is the answer. I try to think how I'd feel if that was my child. (Provided that I wasn't enabling the behaviour of course!!)

Remember he's still young and like most of us, change us hard. He's still adjusting to your routine and rules.

While I totally agree with much of this, in the schools I found even the most difficult kids (even in grade 6) were great kids when you found a way to get in and connect. BUT...as home daycare providers who work alone, all day and long hours sometimes it is best for everyone involved...including the `problem`child to call it quits. What can you handle?

Some kids just need to be in a centre where there is addition staff to trade off when things are going downhill to provide caregiver relief and where resources are more plentiful.

You don't need to take on more than you can handle and there is no wrong is admitting this is too much to handle.

I'd make it clear, verbally and in writing with the family now that his behavior is not acceptable that you will give him X amount of time to show improvement or you'll need to terminate. They need to be on board and helping to get things on track. Otherwise they will need to find new care, preferably at a centre. They also needed to be honest up front before you signed the contract.