What to look for

[5 Little Monkeys]

I think your intentions are coming from a good place and you mean well but I agree with the above. I'd feel a bit responsible if a family chose a hdc after insight from me and it turned out awful. (However, saying that, I will and do recommend 3 local providers who I trust and feel comfortable passing on their name (Mickyc and superfun are 2 of them lol) but there are others I know who do dc but I don't pass on their name as I'm not 100% confident in them)

I think it's totally okay to help guide them into figuring out what questions they should ask and to be on the lookout for red flags but I think the questions and red flags need to be things that are specific to them. For example, tv on during pick up time might be a red flag to one family but not another. Asking about the menu might be important to some but not others.

When I'm helping a family (usually friends) look for daycare I encourage them to ask a list of questions about the dcprovider and her program and to come up with their own deal breakers and ask about those but I don't suggest deal breakers to them as it's like you said, personal opinion.