I had to double-check to see if the original poster was me. lol I have had it with out of schoolers, so I am now only providing care for up to age 5; way less frustrating! The older kids tend to want to do whatever they want and the boys tend to want to play agressively or fighting games which I absolutely wouldn't tolerate. They also, especially if they're boys, don't want to do crafts. Yes, it is so frustrating that you spend the time and money for crafts and they decide that they don't want to do the craft. The younger children tend to follow the older kids. So they also decide not to do the crafts.
But it sounds like you have an older child so you may feel the need to take out of schoolers. I think what the previous poster said was a great idea. Perhaps if you implement games that get out some of that pent-up energy. In fact that might be a great idea for the boy preschoolers as well.